Leveraging sleep

A lot has been written about the power of the subconscious mind going to work while we are sleeping and how we often don’t fully use this power to our benefit.
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Ray Kurzeweil, coined the ‘Restless Genius’   by The Wall Street Journal,  Director of engineering at Google, legendary futurist and inventor shares how he gets inspiration for his brilliant ideas.

 

I’m going to try this out and I invite you to join me to do the same before you fall asleep tonight:
STEP 1.  Assign your mind a problem/ an issue that’s been bothering you or something you would like guidance or clarity on
Example:  I’m worried about my job interview, I get so nervous and I’m worried I may say the wrong things
STEP 2. Think about what you would like to achieve/What would be your best outcome to this problem?
Example:  I’d like to find a way to be more myself,  try and relax a little.  I’d like them to see me for who I am and not just a bundle of nerves.
Then:
●●SLEEP●●
STEP 3.  Journal your creative thoughts on waking
Keep a diary/ notepad/ journal by your bed with a pen and within 5 minutes of waking make a note of any creative thoughts and dreams you had.
SLEEP CONSCIOUSNESS
Freud often spoke about sleep conscious being absent of judgement,  boundaries and limitations.
It’s where we are free and relaxed enough to find solutions that our conscious rational mind would normally reject as impossible or unachievable.
I love this concept of a place where we can escape our conditioning and be our true selves with no limitations.
It is often our innate self-talk of not feeling we are good enough that stops us from achieving our full potential. Anything that helps us rise above this has got to be worth a try.
Mendeleyev was thought to have come up with the idea of the periodic table through a similar process of dream-inspired insight which solved many problems that his waking brain could not fathom.
What do you say?
Give it a go and let me know what happens.
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Press Pause: Just 3 steps to calm

 

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STEP ONE:  PRESS PAUSE & FEEL

This is the most underrated step but in my opinion- The hardest.

Here’s the situation:

You are late for work, you didn’t sleep very well,  you spill coffee down your suit in a rush, your boys are fighting over football stickers and to top that off your puppy runs around the kitchen with wet muddy paws.

It is in this moment that your nervous system is mounting a response, most likely from your fight or flight sympathetic system sending a cocktail of stress hormones designed to raise your blood pressure to help you attack or run away.

It is in THIS moment that you have a choice.  This is the juiciest part when you realise there is actually a gap, a moment…an opportunity.

Just feel the rush of the emotions going on in your body. We so often run away or don’t want to feel our emotions, they then get pushed down only to resurface later, this time stronger and now demanding your attention.

I challenge you, as I do myself in these moments, to PRESS PAUSE and just FEEL what comes up in that moment…is it anger, pain, resentment?

 

You then have a choice to either :

REACT  OR   REFLECT  Which will you choose?

 

If you can get past this step and pause even for 20 seconds you are winning.  You are overcoming the inbuilt programming that we all have.

Every time you do this you will be able to pause a little more and even maybe move to STEP 2.

 

STEP 2: LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO OFFER YOURSELF WORDS OF SUPPORT

Instead of saying or thinking to yourself:

‘Why me?

‘I should have been quicker, better, more organised, should have woken up earlier…’

You start blaming yourself and everything around you,

Think :

‘I have great coping skills, I can do this’

According to the fabulous  Marisa Peer, the quality of our self-talk is very important in building our inner self-worth and self-esteem.

 

Positive self talk  calms your nervous system and tells your brain that things can relax again… it’s ok,   you really DO have this.

Your brain can then go from SURVIVAL PANIC mode

to the calmer LOGICAL I-GOT-THIS mode.

 

STEP 3: LEVERAGE

Ok if you have got this far, you are pretty amazing.  It took me some time and many bad days to get this far.

So you’ve PAUSED, offered yourself some words of support. Now what?

LEVERAGEVictor Frankl in his very moving book ‘Man’s search for meaning’ wrote about his experiences in an Auschwitz concentration camp.  He speaks of how we have a choice, even in the worst situations imaginable on earth, those men and women that chose a positive outlook and reframed their situation were able to live and survive extreme hardship.

 

Leverage is reframing a bad situation into one that can offer us an opportunity for growth.

I am now using this with our boys and looked at what I say to them.

Instead of: ‘That will teach you a lesson or serves you right’

I now pause and say: ‘Well this is an opportunity for growth’.

They are fed up of hearing it but I have read that through repetition, the things we say as parents have been shown to affect the future self-esteem of our child.  Subconsciously, our dialogue, be it positive or negative, will become our child’s inner self-talk.  This is a huge opportunity to make an empowering difference to our future generations.

 

 We are now reframing ‘you are bad and deserve to be taught a lesson’

to

‘Mistakes happen, that’s ok, it is an opportunity for us to grow’.

 

I failed many times and I still do, but I feel I am moving forward as  I can pause for longer and react less and reflect more.

 

 

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Even if all you can manage is to press that PAUSE button you are almost there.

 

Good Luck and Keep Going.

It takes a lot of work and time but I know you and I can do this.


Are you having a bad day? I have one word for you : Leverage

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Robin Sharma, a leader in personal mastery, eloquently speaks of Leverage and in one word has transformed my attitude to bad days.       

Leverage,  defined as  ‘To use for maximum advantage”   has enabled me to now reframe a bad or unfavourable situation from:

 

Why ME ?

to

What can I learn from this ?

 

And now this isn’t easy and it takes a great deal of work but I can tell you that its work that’s worth doing.  I have constructed a 3 step plan for myself every time something bad happens.

So what changed? Well I started writing these steps on the back of my hand to remind me and well to live life means to experience the bad with the good so the ‘bad’ was still there I just didn’t see it as ‘bad’ but an opportunity.

 

 ‘Having a Bad day? Try my 3 step plan’

 

Have a read and do take a moment to comment, let me know what you think.  I’m trying to patiently reinforce it with our boys  and there is the challenge right there…

 

To ask an 11 year old to PAUSE and REFLECT and LEVERAGE  before he clobbers his 7 year old brother for destroying his art work… ok work in progress.  I’ll keep trying.

 

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